Picture the situation, if you will: you have a friend, a close friend. Let's call her Judy. Judy has broken up with her boyfriend of three years, she has just lost her job, and she's beside herself. Not only is poor Judy heartbroken, she doesn't know where the rent is coming from. A lot of us have been there. Judy is scared, and lost. She really needs guidance.
Judy asks you for a reading. Now this is already awkward - in fact, I think you'd be well within your rights to refuse, as much as you may want to help. Before you even accept such a challenge, you need to make sure you know why she's asking. Is she merely asking for some insight, or looking to a friend to tell her everything will be alright? The temptation to do exactly that - to comfort someone with a few white lies - is understandable...but to do so would be the very definition of 'unethical'.
But what if the cards come out 'bad'? Now, I don't think any individual card is totally good or bad, but the right combination of cards in the right context can certainly bring a warning of bad news. You deal the cards, only to find the message is clear: Judy has, to a degree, made her own bad luck. The Tower card springs to mind, which can signify (among other things) that the querent is in a hell of their own making. You know this is the last thing Judy wants to hear, so what do you do?
The important thing to remember is that there is nothing big or clever about scaring a querent with a reading. It is never acceptable to beat someone down like this when they are vulnerable. Instead of saying "This is all your own fault", which is not only cruel but probably not the entire truth, try "You have the power to turn this situation around". Focus on the positive. As my father would say: "Don't tell me your problems, tell me your solutions". The focus of the reading should always be how the querent can take control and improve their situation, not where they went wrong. A lot of people will really take what you say to heart - do not underestimate the responsibility you take on when someone asks for a reading. And if the querent leaves you with a smile on their face - that's when you know you've done a good job.
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